What to Wear on Your Wedding Day
The venue is booked. The band is booked (you never want to hear Uptown Funk or Valerie again as long as you both shall live!) Your Bride to be is spending afternoons dress shopping and you now have an uncanny knowledge of the cost of fresh roses and gypsophila.
When you're so focused on keeping everyone else happy, it's easy to overlook yourself. Weddings are one sided. I've never heard a groom gush that he had the wedding of his dreams, or it was something he had been planning since childhood. Guests don't gasp in awe at the beauty of the groom and "the dress" is something that's talked about for months before, hours during and years after the wedding.
But that doesn't mean that the groom's outfit doesn't matter. In my business, I've seen a lot of grooms come to us because they want something different. It seems that gentlemen are becoming more conscious about how they look on their wedding day, and rightly so.
"How will you be dressed?" was a question that I got asked frequently in the run up to my wedding and I think a lot of people were surprised that my answer was "traditionally". I love highland wear, it can look great if worn properly (by properly I mean the right garments on the right occasion and all fitting well) but I think it has come under fire in recent years. There seems to be an opinion that highland wear is a bit old fashioned. Kilt hire shops have a lot to answer for in my opinion, their dominance of the insdustry with ill fitting garments made from cheap fabrics has been detrimental to the traditional aesthetic and the general knowledge of the subject. But done well it can look timeless and resplendent.
My style is quite understated yet very deliberate. I carefully put together an outfit taking into consideration things like time of year and occasion. What I chose to wear to my wedding was no different. I wanted a kilt. I've worn a hired kilt 3 or 4 times in my life, and each time I hated the fact that it didn't quite fit properly and it wasn't mine, so if ever there was a time to have a kilt made it was now. Moore doesn't have a tartan, so I did a bit of research and thanks to a friend at the Scottish Tartans authority, I was given some options on tartans that I, as a Moore, could wear. I opted for the Muir tartan; large blue and green check with thinner stripes of red and a bold yellow overcheck, bold, but not loud. I knew I wanted to wear a day jacket; Prince Charlie's should be worn as evening wear and I'm not too keen on the fuss of the traditional argyle jacket.
I worked with my tailors to create a classic day jacket to go with my kilt. I chose a Scottish cashmere blend as the fabric; slate grey with a very small herringbone pattern. I like a wider lapel, there's a certain vintage charm about it and I added a shawl lapel to the waistcoat to match. The garments were accented with beautiful unpolished horn buttons, matching the natural material used for the hilt of my sgian dhu.
The outfit in entirety was understated and traditional, but it showed my personality. Clean and simple, with no fuss or bling, enough of a statement to stand out without drawing too much attention.
I don't believe that there are, or should be, any hard and fast rules to what you wear on your wedding day. It's your day, it's about you and your bride. Wear what makes you feel good and helps you look your best. If you don't like kilts, don't wear one. If I could offer any advice at all it would be this:
Do some research: who or what inspires you? For me it was Prince Charles in Scotland. You might have a thing for Gatsby, or Dickie Greenleaf, or Cpt Rhett Butler. Whoever or whatever inspires you can act as a starting foundation for you to build your look upon.
Buy the best quality you can: some kilt hire shops offer a shirt to go with your outfit for an extra £5. Do you really want to be wearing a £5 shirt on your wedding day? Splash out a little, indulge yourself. Remember that most of the things you wear on your wedding can be worn again, so go for those handmade shoes, or personalised cufflinks, you won't regret it.
Details matter: think about how small details can enhance your look. Personalised or vintage cufflinks, a family kilt pin, a special tie. Little things that add unexpected curiosity can transform our outfit and make it really personal.
What I wore:
Handmade Muir tartan kilt - Macgregor & Macduff
Bespoke jacket and waistcoat - Ten30
Fitted white shirt - TM Lewin
Dark red textured tie - Reiss
Red wool kilt socks - House of CHEVIOT
Black brogues - Dune